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Pain, Loss & Healing Articles


​Although we all experience trials and suffering, hope can be found in learning from how others cope and knowing that we can eventually get to the other side of pain and loss.

The Spiritual Power of Tears

If I hypothetically asked you to think of a person who was being ‘really emotional’ what kind of characteristics do you think of? Do you get a mental image of someone who is... Read more >

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone
How to be there for the people who need you most. When my Mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days. None of us knew anything about... Read more >

My Marriage Didn’t End When I Became a Widow
When my husband died from cancer last March at age 37, I was so grief-stricken I could barely sleep. One afternoon, I visited his grave — in a field high in the Santa Cruz Mountains... Read more > 

What It Really Takes to Recover from Pain and Loss
Most people try to help you feel better when you are in emotional pain, but they don't know how. For example, when my first engagement ended (about 25 years before I met...) Read more >

Pain is Not a Mistake
I used to believe that I couldn’t handle pain. I thought I was too broken, too sensitive, too fragile for life’s beauty and brutal, so I hid from all of it inside addiction. Addiction is a lonely... Read more >

Medicating Women’s Feelings
WOMEN are moody. By evolutionary design, we are hard-wired to be sensitive to our environments, empathic to our children’s needs and intuitive of our partners’ intentions. Read more >

When Grief Won’t Relent

Bereavement — how one responds and adjusts to the death of a loved one — is a very individual matter. It is natural to experience a host of negative reactions in the weeks and... Read more >

Warning: "Hanging in There" is Destroying Your Health

​Sucking it up is highly overrated. We operate in a society where it seems as if there is some secret committee that hands out awards for people who work through any sickness... Read more >

Suicide Isn’t About Wanting to Die

There are many misconceptions when it comes to suicide. People believe that it is selfish, egotistical, and even immoral. To stipulate, I am speaking of suicide in the context of mental... Read more >